I  can’t grow in my relationship with my wife if I don’t talk to her.  In fact I probably wouldn’t even have a relationship with her at all.  Furthermore, I can’t expect someone else to talk to my wife for me.  It might work once or twice but eventually I’ll have to do it myself. Secondhand religion doesn’t talk to God.  It doesn’t reveal problems.  It doesn’t ask questions.  It doesn’t challenge.  It doesn’t complain.  It doesn’t rejoice.  Secondhand religion leaves prayer to the church and prayer warriors.  Secondhand religion leaves one feeling like God is silent, absent, uninvolved. That’s why the firsthand tool of prayer is SO incredibly vital!